Romeo and Juliet healthy and dysfunctional relationships

Healthy

   The nurse and Juliet have a very healthy mother and daughter type relationship. The nurse cares about Juliet so much, as if she were her actual daughter.  If Juliet ever has a problem she goes to the nurse for help, or if she is upset or needs someone to talk to she goes to the nurse.  Juliet trusts the nurse like she was her actual mother, and the  nurse has been very supportive of her loving Romeo even though she knows it's dangerous.  She just wants Juliet to be happy, even if it means she is with their enemy. The nurse even helped deliver Juliet's message to Romeo for her.  She had always been their for Juliet and so Juliet will always want to be there for her.  After the nurse delivered the message from Juliet to Romeo, she came back to the house and delivered the message to Juliet and said "then hie you hence in Friar Lawrence's cell. There stays a husband to make you his wife". This is why the nurse and Juliet have a healthy relationship.  I think there is nothing bad about their relationship as It's very healthy.  Even though Juliet's mom should be doing what the nurse is doing for Juliet, it's not the case with this family, because it's very dysfunctional. The nurse has played the role of Juliet's mother ever since Juliet was born.

Unhealthy 

  Juliet and her parents have a very bad and unhealthy relationship . Juliet's parents are forcing Juliet who is only 13 and Paris who is an old man to get married.  Juliet's dad also paired them together, all he cares about is if he's a Capulet or not, and if he has money. Juliet's parents are very superficial. Juliet doesn't love Paris, but they are going to force her to marry him anyway.  They even threatened her if she didn't marry him they would kick her out of their home and protection.  Juliet's parents know that she doesn't  love Paris, but they don't care.  Juliet doesn't even have a relationship with her mom, as the nurse is her mother figure to her.  Juliet's mom is always drinking or partying somewhere and does what ever Juliet's dad tells her to do.  Juliet has a very unhealthy relationship with both of her parents. The nurse is the only one that truly loves her. Juliet's own dad told her "hang thee young baggage, disobedient wretch! I tell thee what-get thee church a Thursday or never after look me in the face" which means that if she doesn't marry Paris on Thursday he will kick her out and never see her again and if that's not bad enough Juliet's mom Lady Capulet says " talk not to me, for I'll not speak a word. Do as thou wilt, for I have done with thee". Juliet's mom doesn't care for her she just said she is done and she doesn't care, she doesn't even stand up for Juliet.  Therefore this is a very unhealthy relationship, and there is no good side to this very bad relationship.  Juliet's parents have never been there for her, and they don't care.  All they care about is themselves, partying, and how other people see them. They don't care what's best for Juliet

  I think that Shakespeare would think that the most common relationship would definitely be the relationship that Juliet and the nurse have.  Back in that time it was normal for rich families to have a nurse considered to be a mother figure to the children because the rich parents would be out all the time partying and socializing away from their families.  They didn't really care for their own children. Nurses would be there all the time for the children because the fact their parents where never there or looked after them. I think that Shakespeare would think this because in those times it was very common for the nurses to be the mother figure, not so much the relationship Juliet has with her parents. I think that Shakespeare mostly thinks people are bad because in his story there is always fighting between the Montagues and Capulets, and Juliet had a bad relationship with her parents. Shakespeare writes a lot of tragedies and writes more about dysfunctional relationships than good ones.  I don't think Shakespeare is very optimistic regarding people.  Perhaps he is more of a cynic as he thinks most of the people out in the world are bad.  We know this because of  what he writes in his stories.

Relationship

Relationship

The nurse and Juliet have a great relationship. Their relationship is like a mother and daughter.  The nurse has been with Juliet's family for at least 14 years, all of Juliet's life.  Juliet is very formal when talking with her mother even calling her "Madam" but shares everything with the nurse.  Getting advise and opinions from her.  The nurse and Juliet are so close that she is the only one that knows Juliet is getting married and the nurse did not tell Juliet's parents.  The nurse calls Juliet "Lamb" and "Ladybird" has terms of endearment.

A bad relationship is between the two families the Montague and the Capulet.  They have been feuding for years.  Before Romeo and Juliet were even born.  They have been very verbal with their fighting.  "Do you bite your thumb at us sir?"  The whole town knows about their feud.  They argued so much in public that they have both been warned if they fight again in public they will both be killed.

I believe that Shakespeare thinks that it is more common to be feuding or fighting then to be in a normal relationship.  I feel that most of the characters in the play are not in good relationships.  That he portrays   dysfunctional relationships more in the play then he does healthy, normal relationships.

Nurses view about love

(Nurse)

 My opinion of love is I don't believe that there is love at first sight and true love. I believe there is no true love or love in Verona. All the relationships are already decided by parents or family members. The people that I work for lord and lady Capulet do not have any love I'm there relationship. Lady Capulet is only with him because of his money and just does whatever he tells her to, and lord Capulet is looking at younger girls all the time. And for crying out loud Juliet is getting married to an old man chosen by her parents, this is not love at all. I have never had anyone love me, I have no family or children of my own, Juliet is the only person I've ever loved. There is even no love with the Montagues and Capulets, they are always fighting. I think there will be no love for me, and the Montagues and Capulets in Verona. 

I don't know why Juliet is with Romeo a Monatgue, I am still trying to register what I saw at the party. I don't like Romeo, I don't think there is any love there, if he hurts her he is going to be very sorry.

Becca's interim report

 So far English for this semester has been really good. In class I always do my best effort and stay on task. For my attendance I have shown up everyday to class except for one class which I was sick. I always like to get my work done and I try my best in class.  I really like and enjoy this class. This has been the best English class I've ever had. I really like it how we do all our work on blogger and wiki spaces instead of pen and paper. Even though I'm not a techy person I enjoy learning how to do all this new stuff on the Internet and computers. 

For my assignments so far this year, they have all gone well.  I have completed all of the assignments when they were due, and I spent a lot of time on them.  I didn't rush them just to get it over with.  In English so far my best line that personally I think is the most meaningful is "Bullying is a really big issue everyone just needs to realize picking on others isn't cool and if you say something your scared of what people will say about or to you, everyone just needs to do the right thing and say something ". Why I think that this was the best quote I did is because bullying is a really big issue and a major topic today. It happens everyday all around us.  I just think that people need to do the right thing and not care so much about what other people think.

  In English I have good self regulation. Even though we're allowed to have our phones out, and we can do what we want, I know it's more important to get the class work done and not just goof around.  This is like the Cookie Monster video on our class wikispaces. Even though he wants the cookies he'll wait. I'm excited for whats in store for us in English class this semester.

Relationship essay

    Relationships, there are so many different relationships you can have, not just a love relationship.  In class we looked at three poems from different authors and times. They are all to do with relationships, but each poem has a different way of showing the different relationships.

  Charles Bukowski the author of the poem "How is Your Heart" never had a normal relationship and never knew what one was. He had a very bad childhood. He was beat with a razor by his dad, so he never knew how a father and son relationship should be. He never knew what a normal relationship with girls was because no girl liked him. In the second poem Walt Whitman was a bisexual in the 1800's. He was the author of "To a Stranger".  I think the poem was about him imagining having a perfect relationship with someone he loves because he couldn't have one. The third poem we read was "Unentitled" by Jennifer L'hirondelle .  She is a Canadian native Metis.   This poem is about the relationship between her and the land. At first I thought it was just about a normal relationship, but reading through everyone's comments on wikispaces and talking about it in class, it changed my opinion.

   There are some things that the three poems, "How is our heart", "To a Stranger" and "Unentitled" have in common.  They are all to do with relationships, either with people or land. They also talk about certain relationships for themselves because everyone has different relationships or views them differently from others. All three authors had or have different lives, They all had different childhoods, and all were raised differently and so had different backgrounds.  For each of them their lives were shaped by how they were raised and the childhoods they had. People don't know what a normal relationship is if they don't see that for example with family, or if they haven't had one themselves.  Each of the pieces are very different from the other. They all have different messages, but they are all on relationships.

      The poems "How is Your Heart", "To a Stranger", and "Unentitled", all have similarities with teenagers and their relationships that they have today. Wether it's with their family, friends, or people they like. There are some similarities with all of the poems.  "How is Your Heart" by Charles Bukowski can relate to relationships with teenagers today.  Maybe not to the extent that his life was, but teenagers can relate to the struggles that he had and wrote about in his poem. Some teenagers don't have any homes and may have to sleep on park benches. Some teenagers  can get into trouble and end up in jail. Teenagers can also have  troubles with relationships they have. This is how that the poem "How is Your Heart" can relate to relationships with teenagers today.the poem "To a Stranger" by Walt Whitman can relate to relationships with teenagers today because mostly everyone imagines or dreams about having a relationship with someone they like or love.  The poem "Unentitled" by Jennifer L'hirondelle can relate to relationships with teenagers because teenagers need a place of peace, somewhere that's quiet or that they feel that they have a connection with.  Lots of teenagers can relate to this for example by going to the ocean, or hiking in the wilderness.  This is how all three if the poems we did in class can be connected to relationships with teenagers today.

   These poems fit into our Relationship theme because even though the three poems are all very different from one another, they have very different messages, and talk about different things, but they are all about relationships. So even though they are completely different they all talk about different relationships people and teenagers can have. Our theme is relationships not just about love relationships, but each and every type of relationship you can have.  That's how the there poems fit into our theme about Relationships.